Yesterday my mom arrived from Dallas. Two weeks ago she asked if I’d like a visit and said a heartfelt yes. We saw each other for a brief meal when I flew through Charlotte a long while ago, but no long visit since my hysterectomy two and a half years ago.
She’s here to help me with household tasks and to watch me after ECT (you’re supposed to have an adult with you for 12 hours afterwards) and to keep me company. Just after one day of being asked several times if I needed something, or getting help loading the dishwasher, I realized …
You never outgrow your need for mom’s care.
What a gift to be looked in on so often! What a gift to feel cared for even though “I only have a mental illness” as some relatives put it…
Those of you who have asked – what could I use, or what could others recently diagnosed with a mental illness use?
- Some Mom TLC if that’s available.
- But also some meals or help from friends with cleaning or straightening or grocery shopping if possible. We’re trying to find normal again and we’ll need help to get there.
- Some company, especially before and after any procedures or big appointments.
- And ask, “How is it with your soul today?” and be open to hearing the good and the disappointing.
Just a few thoughts based on just a few hours of mom being around. Use the ideas or find some others. Just about any checking in you might do with a person with mental illness will help us feel remembered.