Ways You Can Help Me

One of my goals for remaining stable is communicating even better with those who are around me and care about me. I now authorize All of You to call me out if you see any of these behaviors! It may mean I’m tipping toward a pole and need extra treatment: therapy, meds, schedule changes, diet.

I’m not kidding! Totally tell me if you see these in me!


  • Speaking too quickly
  • Pressured speech
  • Flight of ideas (many ideas at the same time)
  • Not describing ideas thoroughly
  • Trying to force a decision before it has been thought through
  • More than racing thoughts, but getting caught up in the race and obsessing about an idea or situation
  • Changes in schedule – up too late or sleeping in, or changing a pre-planned schedule
  • Being secretive or lying about choices I’m making

Healthline.com lists the symptoms of bipolar mania:

  • restless and impulsive behavior
  • poor judgement 
  • an unrealistic perception of abilities 
  • happiness, even to the point of euphoria 
  • agitation 
  • jumpiness
  • participating in risky behavior, such as gambling, drunk driving, or impulsive sex 
  • talking quickly
  • thinking quickly 


  • Speaking about suicide, dangerous or bad thoughts or self-harm
  • Expressing hopelessness or meaninglessness
  • Isolating from local face-to-face friends
  • Not sharing what is really going on with me (i.e., just saying I’m doing ok or fine)
  • Skipping appointments with my therapist or psychiatrist
  • Changes in schedule – up too late or sleeping in, or changing a pre-planned schedule
  • Anxiety or feelings of being overwhelmed

Healthline.com lists the symptoms of bipolar depression:

  • intense fatigue
  • prolonged, extreme sadness
  • talking slowly 
  • issues with proper decision-making and focus 
  • a poor appetite
  • hopelessness 
  • thoughts of self-harm, including suicide
  • withdrawal from friends and families
  • a loss of interest in activities and hobbies


22 responses to “Ways You Can Help Me

  1. Can I share this on my site?

  2. This is a GREAT idea! It’s probably best to post something like this when we’re well so that our readers can alert us to changes they may be seeing that we aren’t. Hope you don’t mind if I do something similar on my blog.

  3. Your blog is inspiring and this is a great list to have! I was diagnosed with bipolar 2 about 7 years ago and during the last 2 years I (unwisely) stopped treatment. I’m finally getting back on track and stumbled on your blog when searching for resources. I’ve also been considering starting my own “bipolar”, as it’s something I haven’t spoken to many people about (yet).

  4. Just had another upsetting holiday with my bipolar daughter. It’s so hard and I feel bad for my other younger daughter. It wasn’t a total wash out like some holidays we’ve experienced but still tough. Thank god for my sisters and husband. I try too hard and get so little in return. Have been working on getting thicker skin but I’m still human. Thought readers might like a perspective from the other side of bi-polar.

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  6. Oh, how I wish I could see patterns like this in my life. My memory isn’t very good these days and I haven’t really tracked things. I went through a super dark depression last October to about February (I think). It was bad enough and the timing was just right that I could remember when it started. I noticed myself going dark again this year at about the same time. I think it’s because of the holidays and the family pressure and obligations I feel. I’m trying to be proactive and change a few things in my life. I’ve made it further than I did last year without going completely dark. Fingers crossed that it will stick! I guess I should be tracking better. I love the idea of knowing my pattern, if there is one. Thanks for this.

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  8. I could not find your contact info and I’d like to ask you a couple questions. Do you have an email?

  9. I would love to interview you on my ‘Thriving with Bipolar Disorder’ blog series – you have a lot of great articles and it is just about sharing our stories and things that help.

    Can check it out here: http://www.mollymchugh.com/new-thriving-with-bipolar-disorder-interview-series/

    We are all unique with various ways to cope. Please send me a note if interested! Or I can check back here – didn’t easily see an email to contact you. best, Molly

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  11. I can completely relate to this. I am also a rapid cycler and definitely not on a bike…hahaha…. I actually am what is called a ultradian rapid cycler and can shift from mania to depression and back in the same day. This has not been happening lately as I have had better health than I ever had. I have been living with bipolar and mental illness my entire life but was diagnosed about 24 years ago. I was diagnosed after giving birth to my first child. Now that I am menopausal my health is better than it ever has been. I am not sure if that is due to hormonal changes again or because of becoming a born again Christian because I believe God saved my life healing me to the point that he wanted me to be heated. I still have symptoms of bpolar of course but to a much lesser degree. My rapid cycling has slowed down but is still faster than most about 10 times a year but who is counting and it is continuing to decrease. I also have mixed episodes so it is very hard to keep track accurately, as well. Plus, I think after so much research and learning how to live and cope with symptoms and read them better it has helped me. One thing I do want to research and find more about is the hormonal factor of bipolar… like do symptoms decrease at menopause or I suppose it is different for everyone I think. But it seems menopause and aging has helped me but who knows really. I do know for sure that this blogging world is very therapeutic for me. BTW I also have to keep myself in check as I become obsessed with things (Like blogging) don’t sleep sometimes etc. etc. but I know a little better now how to keep myself healthier now and try to make myself sleep more etc. Thank you for listening and congratulations on having such an awesome blog. Hugs and blessings. ❤ Sue

  12. Deborah… I’m going to reblog this post to everyone I know. You’re going to be alright. 💗

  13. Hello, I enjoyed this blog. I really like the idea you brought into the notice of how someone should help when a person has bipolar. I am a person who has bipolar disorder and I agree on these steps to getting help. You can also check what similar thoughts I have as well on my blog: https://www.daynightmind.com/

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